"Though lovers be lost, love shall not;
And death shall have no dominion."
We live life everyday, going about our business, taking advantage of everyone and everything, taking everything that we were blessed with for granted...until reality hits us: that we are only here for a certain amount of time, until we go back to where we originally came from. One similarity we have with animals is the ability to love, to care, to attach ourselves to friends, family, the people around us in general. And once these people are taken away from us, we lose them, the realization that we will no longer be able to hear their comforting voice, their loving smile, their sweet face, their affectionate caress... ... can be one of the most painful emotions any human being or animal could ever endure. The agony and the misery that this person is no longer around and will never be anymore is atrocious. Everything around you reminds you of them: something you did together, a photograph, where you had your first date, where you had your first kiss, a bed you shared together, the simplest little things that used to bring a smile on your face...but that smile immediately fades away...and you realize how much you've lost...and how much you took for granted...and that is an epiphany that truly changes your life forever.
But does it end there? We tell people "I wouldn't be able to live without you." all the time. Does that mean we can never recover from such loss? This is where the difference between us and animals comes in: the fact that we can show we care. As we go through our difficult times, our friends and family help us take these small steps towards recovery. 4 years ago, I lost my uncle. Now, this seriously affected as I had always built the notion that my family was invincible. And then, as he got worse, it dawned on me absolutely no one is spared. He was the only father figure I ever had and losing him just left me... ... But what brought me back together was family. We were all in tears, mourning an uncle, a brother, a father, a friend and a son. But the fact that we could help each other take a tissue and wipe each other's tears and provide a shoulder for the other to lean on, shows the amazing thing that is love.
Death may break your heart, but knowing that the people are around share your pain and will stick by you to get you through this, we watch as the hearts piece back together.
This entry is dedicated to my good friend Jeremy Marine as he goes through a very difficult loss. Stay strong, Jer! We're here for you!
And death shall have no dominion."
-Dylan Thomas (1914-1953)
Welsh poet
Welsh poet
We live life everyday, going about our business, taking advantage of everyone and everything, taking everything that we were blessed with for granted...until reality hits us: that we are only here for a certain amount of time, until we go back to where we originally came from. One similarity we have with animals is the ability to love, to care, to attach ourselves to friends, family, the people around us in general. And once these people are taken away from us, we lose them, the realization that we will no longer be able to hear their comforting voice, their loving smile, their sweet face, their affectionate caress... ... can be one of the most painful emotions any human being or animal could ever endure. The agony and the misery that this person is no longer around and will never be anymore is atrocious. Everything around you reminds you of them: something you did together, a photograph, where you had your first date, where you had your first kiss, a bed you shared together, the simplest little things that used to bring a smile on your face...but that smile immediately fades away...and you realize how much you've lost...and how much you took for granted...and that is an epiphany that truly changes your life forever.
But does it end there? We tell people "I wouldn't be able to live without you." all the time. Does that mean we can never recover from such loss? This is where the difference between us and animals comes in: the fact that we can show we care. As we go through our difficult times, our friends and family help us take these small steps towards recovery. 4 years ago, I lost my uncle. Now, this seriously affected as I had always built the notion that my family was invincible. And then, as he got worse, it dawned on me absolutely no one is spared. He was the only father figure I ever had and losing him just left me... ... But what brought me back together was family. We were all in tears, mourning an uncle, a brother, a father, a friend and a son. But the fact that we could help each other take a tissue and wipe each other's tears and provide a shoulder for the other to lean on, shows the amazing thing that is love.
Death may break your heart, but knowing that the people are around share your pain and will stick by you to get you through this, we watch as the hearts piece back together.
This entry is dedicated to my good friend Jeremy Marine as he goes through a very difficult loss. Stay strong, Jer! We're here for you!
1 comment:
Very touching, Jan.
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